Comment by stevenwiles
9 years ago
Let me make sure I understand your logic:
If you had a girlfriend/boyfriend who drank gasoline and ate glass and small, powerful magnets every day, you would not lift a finger or speak a word attempting to stop them? Because they are "not a dog, feeding themselves"?
Might I suggest you have a critical lack of empathy if you lack the desire to help people?
> Let me make sure I understand your logic:
I'm pretty sure you have not only failed to understand your interlocutors logic, but failed to understand how your "And you let her do that?" reads, and would better (presuming the question you seem to think you asked judging from this followup is what you actually meant to ask) phrased, "And have you done anything to dissuade her from this course of action?"
What you actually asked treats the spouse as an infant or chattel to be controlled, and is the reason you got the negative response that you got.
i suspect the problem is your verbiage: "you let her do this". there is no "let" unless you're someone's master.