Comment by ryanmarsh
7 years ago
Do you feel it’s fair to say that women generally long for childbirth because that’s what selection pressures in the environment left us with?
7 years ago
Do you feel it’s fair to say that women generally long for childbirth because that’s what selection pressures in the environment left us with?
I mostly think nature designed sex to feel good as a way of tricking people into getting pregnant. Most pregnancies are not planned. Two people were just trying to have a good time. You have to actively work at not getting pregnant if you want a sex life, but don't want children.
The question of longing for a baby is mostly a first world problem. In most parts of the world, they still have more traditional issues, like shot gun weddings for out-of-wedlock pregnancies.
It is sort of like saying "we crave oxygen." You only are aware of that in its absence. Otherwise, you breathe because that's what you do, not because you sit around writing odes to the wonderfulness of oxygen, oh, how I long for thee.
This is part of why people are weirded out. The default state is that women are trying like hell to not get pregnant most of the time. Then you have some weird edge case where they can't just get pregnant, you discover this matters enough to them to be willing to go to rather drastic lengths to achieve it and it flies in the face of our expectations.
Even if this question was interesting (it is not) there is no reason to think the experience of motherhood would give someone particular insight into the answer.