Comment by nimms
15 years ago
What is causing your feeling of wasted potential? Why do you feel your potential needs to be fulfilled anymore than anyone else's? Why make yourself so unhappy because you haven't achieved greatness? One of the crazy things about the age we live in is that you're no longer just competing against the most successful person in your little neck of the wood. Because of how incredible our ability for mass communication is, we now compare ourselves to the luckiest, most beautiful and most gifted people of our age. It's almost like the media is quickening the pace of social evolution...and it's causing more social anxiety than you can poke a stick at.
Hey it doesn't matter that you're not Steve Jobs or Bob Dylan or Mahatma Gandhi...Those guys lived the jackpot of the human lottery (in terms of making a difference to the rest of us).
something I've learn't over the years is that you rarely make headway against a problem by struggling against it, in the way that you will be engulfed in quicksand the more you thrash. Generally acceptance and relaxation will bring quicker resolution...a lesson that is at odds with the modern hollywood fairy tale of one person struggling against improbable odds.
The universe is massive, we are microscopic...our achievements are ephemeral and our lifetimes are over in the blink of an eye. There are thousands of forgotten civilisations, vanished into the fog of history, taking with them the endeavours of their citizens...Happiness and inspiration come when you're not looking for them. They are not the sole domain of Hollywood or silicon valley. They really are found in everyday moments, that if you're always focusing too far in the future, or on things you don't currently have, you walk right past them.
Also, surely the image of the phantoms wandering the earth, chained to their safes is meant to convey a similar message to the article??
I didn't say that I was miserable!
My life is pretty great right now. To some extent I already have the life I want. I can use my skills appropriately, it does have a big impact, and my workplace is totally understanding about reshuffling work hours for a better quality of life.
My regrets are mostly about what I did or haven't done in the past. I'm in my late 30s now, and I am having to face the fact that I don't have the energy I did in my 20s. Instead my youth was wasted on wrestling with depression in various forms, causes that didn't deserve it, or companies that ultimately flushed my work product down the toilet.
Perhaps my "dent in the universe" comment makes you think I want to be Steve Jobs... not really. Actually I am convinced that if you become famous, your success is probably of the wrong kind.