Comment by js2

7 years ago

Let the other person save face. Nothing diminishes the dignity of a man quite like an insult to his pride. If we don't condemn our employees in front of others and allow them to save face, they will be motivated to do better in the future and confident that they can.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influen...

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js2

semiotagonal 7 years ago

Exactly! I've never read the book, but perhaps I've been influenced by people who have.

hrktb 7 years ago

> Nothing diminishes the dignity of a man quite like an insult to his pride

This makes me realize how much the notion of “pride” applied to people feels such a dirty word by today’s standards.

Being proud of something, having pride in doing something is highly valued. Pride towards ourself is ridden with corrosive imagery from the cold war area, undue self boasting and narcism. I am happy with humility and openness becoming a better valued trait.