Comment by awinder

The problem is the prescriptive nature, i.e., being very tied to force the "sshd" into all of these examples. You need to ask more questions leading up to figuring out if sshd suggestion would even be applicable, and if you get the point where you've done that, and you haven't heard sshd mentioned yet as something explored, then that's the time to bring it up.

And I'll add, it's not condescension that's the big issue here, it's that suggesting technologies before you fully understand a problem suggests a specific level of naiveté that people are on the lookout for. I can exactly place a person's technical problem-solving maturity level by how quickly they get to throwing out technical solutions, because people that have been around the block may have these ideas in their head, but they also know the questions to ask to ferret out where the complication lies.