Comment by beaker52

> My go-to heuristic is "the wordier the question, the more likely it is to be perceived as well intentioned."

Just wanted you to know that I have a conflicting heuristic (which admittedly may or may not be unique to me): "the wordier the question, the more likely it is that the intention is being hidden from me".

Inefficient, wishy-washy, wandering questions set off my spidey sense that tells me I'm not getting the full picture. Earlier in my career, such an interaction would have left me with some risidual anxiety, feeling unsure that I'd been given honest feedback and questioning whether I'd done a good job.

I'm speaking only from the point of view of a review situation of course.