Comment by kaitai

To be fully honest, I'm not so different -- I personally feel that I'm a woman 'cause that's the body I was born into and that's how I'm treated, and since I have no desire to transition, it's the hand I've been dealt so here we are. It does not have intrinsic meaning, probably because it's the water I swim in. In addition, I'm not honestly that interested in the feelings of most other people, cis or trans.

But I still feel you're making up conflict when you have this charge that trans people are telling you how you need to experience yourself. It seems awfully self-centered.

Last, I have particular feelings about "people who menstruate" etc because I live with a physician who gets dinged on quality metrics when he can't perform a prostate check on a person without a prostate or a Pap smear on a person without a cervix. As a math person who is pretty literal, my opinion is that we should be clear about the salient characteristic. You want to do something anatomical? Be clear about it, and I'll tell you if I have the requisite anatomy. You want to shop for curtains for your male partner because women born women automatically have better interior decorating sense? Be clear about that, and I can demonstrate you're wrong. Tell me I'm wrong about a math proof or my perception of politics because hormones? I'll show you what female aggression looks like. I don't like folks telling me what I am or what I think because of my hormones, and your last sentences in the second to last paragraph indicate you might do that to me.