Comment by fxtentacle
5 years ago
My guess would be that you're too peaceful and it shows.
There are some people who will try to bully their way through life. They will apply violent behavior (e.g. breaking your phone) to get their way. The way to stop that is to make it clear that you can apply violence, too.
Most of society works by peacefully interacting with each other. But it is crucial that everyone knows that there is a threat of violence (e.g. the police) to keep everyday life peaceful.
I wonder if I am just imagining it, but I took martial arts lessons as a kid. I've always felt like just the knowledge that I could fight has caused others to deescalate and be respectful.
Well that only works with people that are not afraid of fighting you and possibly winning against you - and there's always somebody that's better trained and/or stronger then you. When you encounter that kind of person, if you challenge them, they will step up and fight you, because they will feel they have no other choice. Reasons could range from pride, (imagined) loss of (self) respect to just being aggressive bullies that enjoy hurting other people. Of course if you're 6'7'' and 240 lbs not a lot of people would want to start arguing with you in the first place.