Comment by lukasb
4 years ago
What proof would satisfy you? How is a victim of rape supposed to be able to supply that proof? Should women wear body cams at all times?
4 years ago
What proof would satisfy you? How is a victim of rape supposed to be able to supply that proof? Should women wear body cams at all times?
The devil is in the details.
Every case is different and should be judged on the merit of testimony of those involved and actual evidence.
Due process and presumption of innocence are good things.
Always believing accusers isn't a good principle. It enables and emboldens abusers not acting in good faith, especially people with narcissistic and borderline personality disorders
Okay, can you give an example of evidence that you would accept in this specific case?
Evidence of what?
I re-read the article to try to figure out what this "specific case" actually might be.
Two people engaged in a consensual physical relations. She was not happy with the outcome.
At the time, she "did not blame him for what happened, and didn't think those behaviors were problematic at the time. ... I maintained friendship with him for a few months after May, because I was convinced that it was all consensual."
So, only months/years later does she decide she's a victim.
She absolves herself of all responsibility ("There was nothing [I did] to cause this"). Yet, she brought wine to dinner with her mentor, drinks until she's hammered while her partner does not drink (Who does that? Other than alcoholics?). Somehow, every decision she makes is his fault.
90% of the article is about her feelings and his responsibility for them. She feels entitled that he show her "remorse, sympathy, and guilt."
She repeatedly accuses him of gaslighting, when it seems more accurate to say they had different recollections or expectations.
She quotes “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good [people] to do nothing.” implying he is evil and she is an avenging vigilante.
"I am not trying to convince anyone of anything." This is disingenuous. I think this her way of saying "This is my story, therefore I do not need to provide proof of anything."
"by speaking up, I can take my stolen power back." It's not obvious how her "power" was stolen. Maybe what she really means is, "I feel powerful by destroying his career."
Mature adults learn from uncomfortable experiences and move on. Emotional infants wallow in life-long self-pity and construct elaborate fantasies to support their victimhood.
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