Comment by colecut
4 years ago
"What if a bunch of your ex-girlfriends or ex-boyfriends got together and decided to ruin your life with accusations?"
This just pretty much does not happen without reason, and I think it is safe to say that if it did, you are probably a terrible person.
Similar happened to me. I dated a woman whose step sister was dating my 2nd cousin (no genetic interbreeding). At some point we had a falling out about her infidelity, but her emotional sway with both her family and mine were more supportive of her story. At first it was just "it didn't work out" but as time passed she decided, for reasons I don't know or understand, that I needed to be punished. She invented several different stories and spread them at the family gatherings I wasn't invited to, and eventually I had both her and her extended family and my extended family first avoiding me, then actively excluding me from communication and visits.
Eventually I learned that she claimed I was touching her daughter and was cheating on her with her coworker (whom I had never even met). I tried to defend myself but it was too late.
Today she has been married and divorced twice, and I have zero contact with any of those involved. I only know her status because Facebook doesn't stop sending me update email despite deactivating that account years ago.
Point is, the whisper network is powerful, and doesn't give a shit about reality.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I definitely believe it happened to you, without knowing you, because I don't see much reason for you to make it up..
It's a shame your ex made up lies about you, that probably happens a lot.
It is worth pointing out that you are trying to make a point with this story, and you are the only one telling it, and I'm supposed to take you on your word that this actually happened..
Yet here we have multiple adult grown adult women, unrelated to each other yet similar (minorities, poor, vulnerable), trying to make their point with 3x the "backing", and so many want to call them liars immediately.
It's funny in a sad way.
Like a previous story, this is truly harrowing, and I think everyone reading this sympathesizes with you. This however doesn't really sound like exes teaming up to destroy you, this is just one bad person.
>This just pretty much does not happen without reason, and I think it is safe to say that if it did, you are probably a terrible person.
oh c'mon, it's insanely naive, let's dont try to push narration that those things do not happen
When do they happen, and why did they happen?
Edit: since I wasn't clear, I am looking for examples of when this has happened to you, or your friend, or anyone that you have heard of...
Edit 2: also by "pretty much" does not happen, I don't mean never happens. But I think the rate at which it happens is probably a rounding error, and I think a lot of people would rather just say "oh well they could be lying" before even bothering to read what they have to say.
Projared, a game review channel on youtube was falsely accused of being a child predator by a bunch of kids who coordinated to destroy him on discord. Those kids provided fabricated "evidence" and managed to destroy Projared's growth, get their channel booted of their network, and destroyed their business relationships with their sponsors and other partners. All this because of the mentality that multiple parties can't lie. The poor host was branded a pedophile by everyone and looked like he aged 10 years in a couple of months.
Projared was fortunate enough to posses the mental fortitude and evidence needed to clear his name. Others in a similar position might not be as lucky.
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https://reason.com/2018/10/17/seneca-valley-mean-girls-false...
https://www.post-gazette.com/opinion/editorials/2018/10/15/A...
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How would you expect anyone to know the answer to that?
Unfortunely I'm unable to come with some kind of recipe/equation for that.
What on earth makes you feel confident enough to say something like “this just pretty much does not happen without reason” . Some empirical evidence I hope.
> This just pretty much does not happen without reason, and I think it is safe to say that if it did, you are probably a terrible person.
That's not a safe assumption at all.
That's why I threw in a probably.
Innocent until proven guilty and all that jazz, but there will be assumptions nonetheless..
I would love to know what these women stand to gain by humiliating themselves if it is all made up.
> I would love to know what these women stand to gain by humiliating themselves if it is all made up.
narcissism, absolution of responsibility, validation, attention
Well, people usually do things for a reason, right? But the reason sometimes is not ethical or fair
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Columbia_University_rape_contr...
TL;DR guy was falsely accused of rape and then harassed for a year regarding the incident with the help of university professors at Columbia.
I don't know about "a bunch of your ex-girlfriends" but never say never...
> This just pretty much does not happen without reason, and I think it is safe to say that if it did, you are probably a terrible person.
Or you associate with or are attracted to terrible people
People don't go to jail without reason. Therefore everyone in jail is guilty.
Nice stretch
"What if a bunch of cops who don't even know you got together and decided to ruin your life with accusations?"
This just pretty much does not happen without reason, and I think it is safe to say that if it did, you are probably a terrible person.
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