Comment by noobermin
4 years ago
I don't agree. The crime here seems to be rape and the use of power to extract sex from another. That's the problem. I don't see how sharing an AirBnB is by itself a problem. In light of everything else, it fits a pattern of manipulation, but it by itself isn't harmful.
She would not otherwise have been able to attend. She is able to attend specifically because of his "generosity". This wasn't something she proposed, and when she tried to bring others into the arrangement he pushed back, insisting it was just the two of them.
So yeah, sharing an AirBNB isn't necessarily bad, but in this case specifically it appears to be predatory.
Oh, my bad. I missed that part. I didn't know he pushed back on others sharing. That's clearly to get them alone. Thanks.
I agree that by itself it wouldn’t necessarily be a “problem” but even so, it would strike a lot of people as pushing the boundaries of appropriateness.
Totally agree with you, just didn't want to take a hard-line stance that it was 100% problematic always.
And pushing this boundary doesn’t help your case any if you do end up sleeping with them.