Comment by globular-toast
4 years ago
Agreed. I can't believe a woman would be naïve enough to share a room with a man. For crying out loud, if a man invites you to a room with him alone he wants to have sex. It's that simple.
I think boys already are told what is acceptable and what isn't. We got taught, in no uncertain terms, what would be considered rape or sexual assault. But I think people are afraid to mention the obvious when it comes to things like putting yourself in uncomfortable situations.
I predict this comment will be downvoted, so let me anticipate your objections. I had my bike stolen last week. I left it somewhere unlocked. This is considered my fault. Now you could say, no, it's not my fault, it's the bastard who stole it. And, sure, you'd be right. But the fact is I don't have a bike right now. Lock up your bike.
I'm not sure if I'm different or not, but I've shared a room alone with female friends on multiple occasions (when younger) with literally nothing happening even when we shared a bed.
Obviously, we were long time friends and this would be different if I was meeting a conference speaker, but as usual, nothing is as black or white as "men only want sex".
However, I do agree with your point. Boys need to be taught what could be considered rape, and girls need to realise that sadly some men will abuse them sexually if given half a chance.
Still dumb. We've known for thousands of years not to let non-married couples be alone together, let alone sleep in the same bed.
I've walked down the street before and not stolen things from people's houses. I assume you leave your front door unlocked at night?
> I think boys already are told what is acceptable and what isn't.
Maybe things have changed since I was young but, that may be overly generous. The kind of discussion I'm suggesting never happened with me, or, if it did, it happened only once. My parents left me to figure that out on my own. I don't want this to sound like I'm attacking my parents because I'm not. I had great parents, but the topic of sexual behavior was obviously something they weren't comfortable having with me at the time.
Thinking back on conversations I've had with pretty much all of my male friends, they had the same experience.
My parents didn't really need to tell me. I've got all of society left, right and centre, telling me I'm a monster with a penis. You'd have to be thick as shit not to get the message.
But it always, always has to be "the boys need to learn". Women are treated like children: nothing is ever their fault and they're easily manipulated. Men are held to a much higher standard. Anything happens it's their fault, always.