Comment by baobabKoodaa
4 years ago
It definitely sounds like he abused his position and did a horrible thing, but the thing he did is not rape (assuming OP story is 100% accurate description of events).
If 2 people are intoxicated and have sex, do they both rape each other? If one person holds more power than the other, while both are intoxicated, is it just a one-way rape? Or is it still a two-way rape, where one person just "rapes a bit more" and the other person "rapes a bit less"? What if the person who had power ends up regretting sex afterwards and cries, does it "turn the tables" and cause the rapist to suddenly become the victim of rape, after the fact?
Yes, she was drunk. Yes, she later regretted having sex. These things alone do not mean that rape was committed. As far as I can tell, she is not referring to the events as "rape", so maybe you shouldn't either.
> she is not referring to the events as "rape", so maybe you shouldn't either.
Can you point to where I used that word?
> Can you point to where I used that word?
Sure! I'm particularly referring to this exchange upstream. First, mirekrusin says:
> Rape is doing it, not insisting, I think.
...And then you respond to this comment in a way that indicates that rape occurred:
> Sex was had while she did not consent, she mentions in the fifth paragraph.
Here is a direct link to your comment: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=26961759