Comment by esarbe

> If the guy was simply a better date we wouldn't be talking about this.

This is what makes me really dislike this story.

The use of power to extort sexual favors is topic that needs serious discussion. But occurrences like these where there is so much gray just waters down the conversation to "She said, he said".

So much in her post just insinuates that is wasn't his behavior at the time she was having problems with but his later actions towards her. Nothing in this accounting is about power dynamics. It is about shitty behavior by a stupid guy.

> I did not blame him for what happened, and didn’t think those behaviors were problematic at the time, because it didn’t even cross my mind that he would do anything that I wasn’t comfortable with.

Stuff like that doesn't really help. So - she was okay with it until she wasn't anymore?

This just sucks.