Comment by useragent86

This is none of my business, and I should probably refrain from offering unsolicited advice. However, in the interest of one human being looking out for another:

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Friend, the best thing a person like you could have done in a situation like this was: nothing--to not get involved.

Instead, you have really, really gotten involved. You seem to have taken it upon yourself to attempt to direct the public perception of these parties' respective characters by investigating and pronouncing judgment on him. You privately inquired as to the inner self of this person you admire(d?), and then you published your private correspondence (within mere minutes), implying it to be evidence of bad faith. You've written at-length about your personal experiences with the man and how your feelings about him have now alternated between admiration and contempt (probably several thousand words now).

You seem to feel like his possibly mistreating another person is equivalent to his mistreating you, personally, and so you join this crusade (or brigade?) against his reputation--perhaps with some hesitation at times, nevertheless with vigor.

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Why?

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It's disappointing that the only person who pointed out the natural consequence of your actions was heavily downvoted and finally even chastised by dang. He was trying to do you a favor, but keen language is frowned upon here--it's required that one dress up one's arguments in verbosity and appearances of ambivalence. (I can imagine how a classic writer like Twain would be treated here, but I digress.)

He was certainly right: anyone who has seen the way you've reacted to all this would be wise to keep interactions with you to a minimum. Otherwise, someday you might do again what you've done here, and with friends like that, who needs enemies?