Comment by drivebyreply

> he will always be trying to put you in a position where you MUST give him praise, because you constantly hold it back.

> ...easily quantifiable status symbols that can be placed in a study and can be easily used to force the parent to render praise.

Just as a data point, I'd like to add that coming from a childhood of constant praise and overprotective parenting, I am also looking for easily quantifiable symbols of achievement. Growing up under-challenged, for me it was quite the interesting psychological experience to have to face the reality that I've been coasting through high-school and college, and have absolutely no objective idea of my skills or achievements.

What I mean is, each extreme is damaging - lack of praise, but also too much praise. A good middle ground is perhaps objective evaluation of the child's progress, coupled with a good introduction into the art of reasonable persistence.