Comment by burnished

You're not wrong, but I think it might be helpful to think of this in different terms. Teenagers, with burgeoning agency, are being denied the ability to meaningfully impact their environment yet are bound to it for most of their lives.

I agree with you that explicit permission is important, but it is also something that young people are frequently and explicitly denied. I don't think the solution is condoning that sort of 'extracurricular', but I think we should recognize the problem is probably starting with the adults in the situation.