Comment by Rayhem
3 years ago
> Conversational affordances are things like digressions and confessions and bold claims that beg for a rejoinder.
Isn't that just giving? I mean, sure, I guess you can say "That movie sucked and anybody who liked it can fight me!" and then not give a shit about what anyone else says which probably isn't giving, but putting that out there and watching for who responds to what and then enticing them with more of that is the essence of giving (and conversation).
TFA uses "giving" and "taking" in an idiosyncratic way. Specifically, in terms of giving/taking the stage. That's the purpose of the story about improv at the top.
Yeah. This was the hardest thing for me to wrap my head around while reading. Even after the terms were put in context, it was Hard Work to continue forcing them into my mind.
Eventually I just gave up on that and realized that the rest of the point was thoroughly useful without those terms.