Comment by krupan
3 years ago
Chastising givers who resent takers, the author says it's "..easy to forget how lovely it feels when you don’t want the spotlight and a taker lets you recline on the mezzanine while they fill the stage."
As a giver, I'd usually rather not be stuck in the "conversation" (more like, speech) that the taker is dominating.
The taker is probably used to talking to other takers, where each person taking time to say stuff is normal. Talking to a giver, using this terminology, can be really disorienting: it's like trying to make conversation with a person who's not participating and is just being polite.
Sometimes it’s unavoidable though. During various social obligations which require your presence it can be nice to have takers around to keep things going.