Comment by Moissanite
3 years ago
Interruptions as part of the natural flow of conversation can pass almost unnoticed, when done appropriately. It is interesting - but mostly frustrating - when people fail at it in a jarring way which comes across as rude. Sadly my wife is one of those people, and her cross-cutting interruptions are a habit learned from her mother. Sigh, mothers-in-law - how distressed I was to discover the stereotype was so accurate...
What they miss is that interruptions should be like a "yes, and..." in improv comedy, not a "yesyesyes, BUT..."
I find I can't talk to people who do that. Things don't flow, they don't work well, and both of us end up frustrated.
So that ends up being a limit for me, I just choose not to interact with people like that if I can help it, and communicating async if I have to.
In my experience, things work best when interrupters work with interrupters, and waiters work with waiters.
That's not to say someone can't switch styles, but the unfortunate reality is that it's easier if people don't have to do that. This results in the kind of self segregation that you do. I've also done that, by switching to a team that shared my communication style.
I don't know if this is good or bad, but it does seem to be the path of least resistance.