Comment by UncleOxidant
3 years ago
> This seemed totally crazy. Some people would just blab on unchecked, and others didn't get a chance to talk at all. Some people would ignore the norm and talk over others, and nobody interrupted them back to shoot them down.
Yes, I can totally relate to this feeling. I grew up in an interrupting culture family. My wife grew up in a wait culture family. I've learned to try not to interrupt her because when I do she can go all Galadriel on me. So over the years I try to wait - and it can still be really hard to do. I suspect that people who find it easy grew up in the waiting culture families.
We used to have a neighbor who would talk & talk saying the same thing over and over just in slightly different ways. It was really frustrating to try to wait her out because she'd go on and on for a long time without a pause- but I did suspect that she did this because she didn't feel heard in life.
people who get interrupted a lot often have very little to say
this in turn makes them monopolize the poor soul who doesn’t interrupt them
>did this because she didn't feel heard in life
I think this is an under-appreciated reason why people socialize, and people who aren't getting the level of socialization they need can have a compulsion to pursue conversation by any means necessary.
I feel for cashiers and waiters when they have lonely customers.