Comment by MichaelCollins

> Teens don't have as much experience with communities going to shit, or with spaces like the workplace where you're collectively responsible for the smooth running of the group. They're hot-headed and can cause one bad experience to snowball where an adult might forgive and forget.

Some people, not just teens of course, feel utterly compelled to go tit-for-tat, to retaliate in kind. Even if you can get them to cool down and back off for a while, and have a civil conversation with you about disengaging, they may tell you that they're going to retaliate against the other person anyway at a later date, in cold blooded revenge, because they have to. That necessity seems to be an inescapable reality for such people. They feel they have no choice but to retaliate.

When two such people encounter each other and an accident is mispercieved as an offense, what follows is essentially a blood feud. An unbreakable cycle of retaliation after retaliation. Even if you can get to the bottom of the original conflict, they'll continue retaliating against each other for the later acts of retaliation. The only way to stop it is to ban one if not both of them. Moderation sucks, never let somebody talk you into it.