Comment by RangerScience
2 years ago
A friend of mine (we're all pretty solidly "Ask", but ofc there's a mix) pointed out that a really important unspoken part of an "Ask" culture is what you are allowed to ask about - thankfully (and anecdotally) you can generally just straight-up ask "what can I ask for?".
Still. Important realization, and definitely something I've failed at before.
This. "Guessers" cannot stand "Askers" who don't know where the line is between a polite tactful request and a imposition. The classic example is someone coming into your town and asking if their family can stay at your house for a week instead of a hotel. Saying no for someone who doesn't want multiple guests to stay that long is a really uncomfortable spot to be in. Most of the time the line is crossed when the requestee has to sacrifice a non small amount of time, money, or comfort for the requestor's benefit.