Comment by hinkley
2 years ago
I know a pair of BFFs who both have ADD. Watching them try to have one conversation is quite eye opening. And a bit exhausting. I'm thinking back to every conversation I've ever had with a polymath or a person with ADD and asking myself, "man, is this what everyone else experienced listening to me?" No wonder the conversations always devolved to 1:1.
People with ADD understand why they shouldn't distract others, but theory and practice are poles apart, even by academic standards. Seeing tangents in text is a good indication they have an accurate diagnosis.
Ironically my friend married someone with ADHD, they visited us, and me and her took a walk, that ended up being 4 hours because it was so effortless for us to just jump topic to topic and talk about 10 different things in detail at the same time. We didn't have to re-focus or focus our energy to keep pace with normal people's way of speaking.
It was the wildest and easiest conversation I've ever had in my life.
Yes! This is what I’m talking about in my sibling post. I’ve never communicated on this level and it’s so easy. We started by texting giant walls of text (we called them stories), but those started getting too long, so we moved to leaving voice memos. It got to the point our memos were 30 minutes long back and forth. Now we talk on the phone for hours and it’s almost impossible to hang up, since we’ll just keep talking and taking.
And yeah, I definitely understand what you mean when you say it’s wild and easy. I don’t know if I can go back to talking with normal people lol.
I’ve been talking with a new friend who has ADHD, and I love the way we talk and interact. We say that we have “motor mouths” because we’ll just talk and talk and talk. We talk over eachother and interrupt eachother constantly, but somehow we are still able to communicate. Other people get upset with me but she really gets what it’s like, so we accept eachother and just go with the flow.
Does anyone know if there is a dating app for people with adhd? I’m curious if I have this kind of connection with other people as well or if it’s just her.
I'm curious, why are you so concerned about how ADHD affects people who don't have ADHD? What makes you think we "shouldn't distract others?" Have you considered that the problem might be failure to accommodate ADHD brains rather than people with ADHD not complying with arbitrary neurotypical standards?
Did you read the message I replied to? It was the experience of someone with ADHD reading the article.