Comment by sanderjd
2 years ago
I didn't downvote you but I honestly just hate this kind of thing.
"You didn't have childhood trauma you say? Sounds just like something somebody who did have childhood trauma would say!"
Like what the hell are you supposed to say to something like this?
It's always interesting to do some introspection. Why do you take offense from something that is simply not true for you?
"There is a theory that claims everyone who has ADHD has pink hair." - "I don't have pink hair." - "Are you sure? Did you check?" - "Yes, I did."
Actually, this kind of thing is exactly what you learn in trauma therapy to watch out for, take note, and investigate. You call it "triggers".
Nowhere in this thread did I claim that the theory is proven. Just that it is out there, has a big following, and is also actively being investigated by the research community. I do think that it is worth discussing, which I tried to do in ways that should not offend anyone.
Also, very likely what we have here is a misunderstanding of what we agree to call "trauma", or "adverse childhood experiences" (and more importantly, what they have meant for a little child that went through them).
I know this discussion is from long ago, but I just saw it, so I may as well respond.
I didn't say I find this offensive, I said "I just hate this sort of thing". That implies annoyance and disdain, not offense.
> There is a theory that claims everyone who has ADHD has pink hair." - "I don't have pink hair." - "Are you sure? Did you check?" - "Yes, I did."
> Actually, this kind of thing is exactly what you learn in trauma therapy to watch out for, take note, and investigate. You call it "triggers".
I'm confused what point you're making with these two paragraphs. That example back and forth is a great example of what sort of thing I meant when I said "I just hate this sort of thing". I would suggest that if you don't find the first interlocutor in that dialogue to be really annoying, then you're the weird one, not the person who already knows they don't have pink hair and really did not need to check.
If asking someone with non-pink hair whether they've checked the color of their hair is indeed an important part of training for trauma therapy, then I'm skeptical of those training programs. (But I doubt this is actually the case, and think it's more likely that it's an incorrect representation.)