Comment by DoreenMichele
2 years ago
If the parent is abusive, trying to get their cooperation in fixing the problem may be an effective means to out them.
They had absolutely no reason to believe I was abusing him. Most likely, they were just trying to cover their own butts and err in that direction rather than in the direction of "what's best for this child?"
That's without getting into larger concerns of "What on earth is wrong with the world that a junk food diet is the medically recommended diet for a serious medical condition?"
I’m not questioning anything about your story. I’m just curious: what types of “junk food” were they recommending?
They routinely recommend pro inflammatory foods like peanut butter. It's an inflammatory condition.
They recommend sugary foods. It's a condition that puts one at high risk of diabetes.
They recommend ice cream as a high fat, high calorie food. It's a condition that predisposes people to having trouble tolerating milk and milk products, especially from cows.
Is this condition so rare that naming it will doxx your child? If not why not name it so others can add it to their mental toolbox in case it affects them or those they love?
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Thank you for the additional details.
I’m speaking more generally than your specific case.
I know. I'm trying to engage you in good faith.
I was molested as a child. I know a fair amount about abuse.
There isn't always a clear bright line between ignorance and abuse. Assuming the worst can make the problem worse.
People tend to not be paragons of virtue who have all the answers for everything they run into. Some people can be helped to become better parents.
I thought long and hard about that while sending care packages to a couple of welfare moms. Declaring them unfit moms and having their kids taken and placed in foster care wasn't some magic solution that guaranteed a fabulous outcome, so I chose to try to help them succeed to whatever degree I could, on a limited budget and from a distance.