Comment by tpmoney
2 years ago
There are lots of ways "can't function socially, at work, and/or take care of yourself" can manifest even if you're in the top 5% of the income distribution. For example, that person's house might be an absolute disaster zone, with overgrown lawns, tasks piling up and a million tiny piles of bills and papers to be done "later". They might need 4 separate alarm clocks in 3 different physical places in order to wake up on time every day. They might be constantly forgetting to follow up with family and friends all the time and isolated and alone when they're not in the office. They might be the co-worker that when everyone is talking about what they did over the holiday weekend responds with "not much" because they're otherwise too embarrassed to admit they spent the whole 3 days in a state of paralysis over what to even do. They might be putting all their energy into appearing normal and functional at work because the alternative is being homeless or starving and you might never know because you don't see them outside the office.
All that to basically say income and job descriptions do not inherently say anything about what disorders a person may or may not be suffering from.
In other words, being able to live with a condition is not the same as the condition being debilitating.
A lot of mental illnesses go unnoticed by others because they're often very easy to hide (and you're encouraged to hide them). Thinking that you can't be in the top 5% of earners and are just doing "speed for fun" is like thinking you can't be suicidally depressed just because you are a comedian. Hell, most people were surprised by Anthony Bourdain despite him being open about his depression. What you see is not reality, so don't be quick to judge. You'd be surprised how many peoples mental states are a house of cards but look like they're living in the finest of mansions.
Seriously, comments like the GPs are not only bad takes, but actively harmful. It perpetuates the belief that people should hide rather than seek help. The big issue with mental illnesses is that they are typically extreme versions of normal behavior and we often paint them as unrealistically extreme and constant. They're highly variable and the most common thing to happen is people only seek help when they're in the spiraling states, where they are incapable of getting that help, but will not seek it out when they've normalized.
Plus, you don't know if they're in that top 5% post medication and would not have been prior. You don't have the counterfactual power to make such judgements.
> They might need 4 separate alarm clocks in 3 different physical places in order to wake up on time every day
I don't know if I have ADHD, but I've always been terrible at getting out of bed.
It bugged me so much I ended up building an app[0] to force me to get up. If I didn't get up and scan my toothpaste barcode within a few mins of my alarm, I'd have to pay $10.
It also has cheat detection so I can't just turn off the phone to avoid getting up. Alarms are stored in the cloud and lock 1 hour before going off so they can't be changed.
Many of my users tell me they have ADHD so it seems likely I fall somewhere on the spectrum.
[0] Nuj Alarm Clock - https://nuj.app