Comment by ganzuul

Accept, don't expect. It is different to trust someone and to predict someone. You can for example "trust" a corporation to hunt for profit, or a criminal to be antisocial.

When you really trust someone rather than simply predict someone there is a special characteristic to what you are doing. Trust is both stricter and looser than prediction. You can trust someone to eventually learn from their mistakes but you can also trust that although they will make mistakes they won't drag you down with them.

Most of the people you consider friends are predictable and therefore safe. A friend who goes off script is quickly no longer safe and therefore no longer a friend. Family is not inherently safe but your trust model evolves as you share your trials.

Don't expect things from people you want to get closer to, but accept them when they defy your expectations.