Comment by sakjur
1 year ago
Suggesting a seemingly easy solution to a debilitating problem someone is having might cause them to feel less about themselves. I believe the point is to offer sympathy to a reader who reads your post and sort of goes “if it’s just that, why can’t I seem to do it?”.
I can tell you mean well, but there’s an asterisk to your advice your commenters seem to point out. Your advice might require years and finding a good therapist or purpose for some. Doesn’t mean it’s not worth it.
It's not a seemingly easy solution to let others and your past affect you less...
Or it may require taking the steps yourself right now because someone has helped you realise it.
Stop trying to protect people from helping themselves. If people don't want to help themselves they are free to.
Sounds like all of you are enabling the self-destruction of the above comment. That's something even I'm offended by.
Disagreement is not malice. People taking issue with your suggested solution doesn’t mean they’re trying to stop people from helping themselves or enabling self-destructive behaviors (at least not intentionally).
I intend to leave this conversation here, though I will read and consider any response you might have even if I’m not responding to it.
They are indeed enabling self-destructive behaviours intentionally. Even the moderator dang has claimed that not enabling someones self-destructive behaviours counts as a personal attack on that person... so yes. Intentionally and disruptively hurting people with malice.
This conversation can be left wherever you want. Many people here are clearly in no hurry to help the above comment author.
I feel sorry for all of you and for the people who have been hurt who are left in their state of hurt because no one wants to actually help them help themselves.