Comment by stef25
1 year ago
> The best thing to do with trauma as a kid is to let it go.
Makes it sound like you have a choice. If you could let go it wouldn't be trauma ?
A psych I saw told me to "just stop thinking about it" when I told her about my problems. Bitch I'm here for sole reason that I can't stop thinking about it.
"Just do x" is non advice.
I’m sorry you had to go through that. I would like to advice that finding the right therapist takes time but don’t give up on finding one.
My last psych laughed at me while I was trying to open up about the trauma and tell him about it in more detail. Some people don’t deserve to be therapists and are probably doing more harm than good to the society. He came as most recommended btw in my city.
Luckily I was able to find a good doctor later.
> My last psych laughed at me while I was trying to open up about the trauma
Did he still get payed?
Because I would laugh at his invoice.
I had a grief therapist start out by telling me the first thing we needed to address was my "pathological belief that my sister and my nephew were still alive somewhere."
Baffled, I was like, "In heaven? My...very mainstream religious belief in an afterlife with God? It's not like I told you I thought they were inhabiting dolls on my mantle or something."
He insisted, so I just stood up and told him I wouldn't be wasting any more of his time, because this was neither the time nor the place to have that argument with me and I left.
At least he had the good sense not to try to charge me for those three minutes.
And people continue to buy into these scam professions.
At least she didn't do anything to compound on your problems.
Consider yourself lucky.
You do have a choice. Everything we do is sourced by choices. It's weird that you think helping people is not advice.
I never said stop thinking about it. I said think about it, pass it through your pipeline of thought and then acknowledge it and leave it.
It's the "and leave it" part everyone is disagreeing with you about.
Major trauma changes you. There is no "leaving it." There is only relearning how to be the way you are now in the world so you can move forward.
Yes. Everyone is capable of leaving it.
Major trauma changes you. That's why you need to leave it rather than absorbing it in your day to day life.
>There is only relearning how to be the way you are now in the world so you can move forward.
That's called leaving it LOL what.