Comment by nailer

> If I had to guess, having to admit he'd been lying to everyone through the whole process was probably also a factor - the deal was something like plead to a manslaughter charge and reveal the location of the victim's body.

I fully believe there is a layer of Reiser that was convinced he did not murder his wife.

I didn't realise this when I was younger, but I'm pretty sure everybody lies to themselves. Like not about grey issues, but simple cases of black and white.

Yes, even most people reading this lie to themselves about facts. We might not be murderers, but we do.

I have an important conversation once where I told someone what they'd done wrong, and how to make things better, in a very mature way. I *remember this conversation.

Years later I took a drug that is known for causing an 'ego-death' and realised what actually happened was that I was angry and tried to hurt the person as much as possible with my words. There's a book on this topic called "Night of the Gun".