Comment by JimDabell
2 years ago
> It’s not that.
I’m replying to a comment that is talking about exactly that. If you want to complain about something else, then that’s a different discussion. But for the purpose of this discussion, yes, it’s that.
> It’s the browbeating that is a turn off and rude comments. Like others have said, it is toxic.
Can you give some examples? If I believed everything people say on this subject, I would expect to see a never-ending stream of insults and bullying on Stack Overflow, but when I go there, I don’t see anything of the sort, except for the occasional comment that’s voted heavily down and/or moderated away. I know toxic behaviour is against the rules, and I can see those rules are enforced effectively.
As far as I can tell, the idea that Stack Overflow is a pit of toxicity is a complete myth. Where is all of this toxicity? Saying that something is off-topic for the site is not toxicity. Closing things as duplicates is not toxicity. Hitting pause on an account that is mass-deleting content is not toxicity.
Your response is exactly what I am talking about.
To clarify – you think saying that I haven’t observed what you claim and asking for you to give examples is toxic behaviour? We have very different ideas about what is toxic.
"I’m replying to a comment that is talking about exactly that. If you want to complain about something else, then that’s a different discussion. But for the purpose of this discussion, yes, it’s that."
Tone, excessive italicization for emphasis.
"If I believed everything people say on this subject"
Yes, that. You really should watch how you speak.
Consider reading the second part of my comment.