Comment by doublerabbit

Strictly Signal via self-hosted VPN for messages. My email web client provided by my email server (Zimbra) which are hosted on colocated servers. 3cx for calls via self-hosted PBX.

Video conferencing instead of FaceTime are made via self-hosted Jitsi and if I am to brag all running on FreeBSD.

Out of Apple or Google I trust neither however will align with Apple more than Google. It's as close as I can get from not having data collected from mongrels.