Comment by kylehotchkiss
2 months ago
Hey Vinay, this part struck me:
> with all the mounting insecurities I had stuffed down over the past several years. I didn’t feel like I could work on them with her. So I broke things off after almost 2 years of unconditional love. It was extremely painful, but it was the right call. I needed to fully face myself.
You had something really special. You obviously miss her. I am not saying that anything will come from it, but why not try some therapy and see if you guys can work things out? What you had was harder to find than the dollar amounts in your blog post. A lot of people just don't find that at all.
All the best on whatever's next.
Yeah it’s always interesting to me when people get rid of stabilizing social forces in their life to “work on themselves”. Changing doesn’t happen in a vacuum, in fact, it’s usually DUE TO those social forces that we learn, grow, and improve.
Gutting an otherwise healthy relationship to navel-gaze seems like a bad choice.
Source: My wife has absolutely pushed me to address hard things in my life and I’m better for it.
That's such a thoughtful thing to say! thank you for sharing that Adam. I hope you've told her this too, it would mean a lot for her to hear you say so. I find that a good encouragement as I seek to one day be married again :)
Thank you! That’s good advice and thankfully I have told her many times and in many ways that she has 10x my life.