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Comment by programmertote

2 months ago

A unique (and IMO, correct) way to put it.

I personally don't want to have a kid of my own blood. But I want to adopt one or two and maybe foster a few IF I become financially capable, which is probably a decade or so away.

I do believe that having a kid of your own in this day and age (esp. when you are working day job and depending on that job for healthcare, housing, etc.) is unfair for the kid who will join you in your life. Sure you'll love him/her, but the reality is the kid will have to grind (again, assuming that you are not a multi-millionaire) when s/he reaches certain age. The best use of our resources, when we accumulate a good amount of wealth to sustain ourselves and have a bit more extra to spare, is to adopt/foster or do something philanthropic entirely (so many homeless, sick, hungry people that you can help).

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RonaldDump  2 months ago

>don't want to have a kid of my own blood. But I want to adopt

Can you elaborate? This is totally alien to me. It basically defeats the point. There must be some monstrous self-loathing involved?

  • vermilingua  2 months ago

    It’s not necessarily self-loathing to accept that you have genes you don’t want to pass on, but still want to have a child.

  • lazyasciiart  2 months ago

    "The point" for me would not be spreading my genes. It would be to spread my parenting and resources.

    Possibly an easier idea for me because several of my many siblings already have multiple children that could be swapped in to my childhood photos without anyone noticing. My genes are pretty well established.

  • GaylordTuring  1 month ago

    What point does it defeat and why? I’m assuming that you’re talking about evolution here, where having your own kids rather than taking care of someone else’s have been adaptive, but that’s just like saying that the point of a large rock on a beach is to be so large as to not be swept into sea by the waves.

    If you meant something else, please clarify!

  • Lionga  2 months ago

    No understanding it to me points out a monstrous narcissistic complex in you.

    While I can understand not wanting to have a kid of your own blood very easy for many different reasons