Comment by ookblah
6 months ago
I don't know anything about his situation, but I will say one of the lamest things ever when breaking up is to say it's not you, it's me heh. I mean that's probably something everyone hears face to face and I get it, nobody wants to hurt someones feelings to give their "real" reason when what's done is done, but to see it articulated on a blog post as some kind transparent confession is a little surprising.
Like unless maybe you were going thru some massive event that was very clearly damaging to your relationship (drugs, abuse, etc), the optics of finding yourself to end a seemingly great relationship after selling a company for mega millions isn't going to jive with a lot of people. But the again I guess that's the point of the post, there is no point or purpose. Alright, taking off my judgement hat now.
Isn't that true though? It's not like she wanted to break up, so it's him, not her, whatever the actual reasons he had.
it's more about the reasons, not who is initiating it or wants it. in any case, i find more often it's just a generic line that people use when breaking up to spare the other party some grief. otherwise it ends up with the other person thinking about what they could have done differently to "keep" the other person.
Hmm, I feel like it might be something like "I have problems with you, but you have none with me. I have enough respect for you that I don't think there's anything wrong with the way you see things, but don't want to keep going with those different viewpoints?" with an addendum that "I don't necessarily want to force you to change." which leads to not saying anything about what those issues are? Potentially because those issues are things you don't actually want to utter, like "I can't bring myself to believe you aren't with me for my money."
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