Comment by cheema33
2 months ago
> life for almost 20 years post college has been nobody wants to develop me.
Is that really possible? I have often thought that the only person that can develop you, is you.
Sure you might get some good advice from some people, maybe a helping hand, a business loan or grant etc. but I don't view that as development.
Your biggest asset is you. Don't be reluctant to use it.
Okay but for the vast overwhelming majority of people, what they actually need is "a helping hand, a business loan or grant etc"
You talk about this like this is trivial, but it's the kind of material help that would make a difference for almost everyone who is currently not doing what they want in life
Yes, no one can teach you to self-actualize. People's material circumstances are rarely a result of inadequate self-actualization or agency, despite what the self-help industry would like you to believe.
Most "high-agency" people who succeed started out with either adequate resources to at least support themselves while they tried stuff, reliable backup plans (like living with supportive family), or help in the form of stuff like grants or startup funding. People who don't have that need that, regardless of their mindset or abilities. There are exceptions who got incredibly lucky, and they are a rounding error among rounding errors. That is the world we live in. There are ways to engineer a world where this is less the case, but at least in the US, we seem to choose not to move in this direction at every opportunity, and freak out when even minor forms of the security necessary to act with agency take hold for large numbers of people (See: The business world's hysterical reaction to COVID relief)
Double down on that last bit: everything you learn and do adds to the equity that is you. That equity pays back in multitudes throughout your life, not just professionally but also socially and spiritually.