Comment by GaylordTuring

Did you feel like this before having kids as well?

I am vehemently against the concept of getting kids (that is, when it comes to myself; you do you) and sometimes hear people say that they reasoned the same way until they actually had kids. My only question then is how they ended up having kids? Sure, mistakes can happen, but for someone like me to have kids would be like someone who said they really, really never wanted to go to India to somehow end up there.

What I’m trying to say is that there probably is a self-selection bias going on here: People who says that getting children gives you purpose are probably people who were quite positive towards the idea of getting them in the first place. But does that mean it is good advice for people in general, including people who are very skeptical? What other activity/life goal works this way? Lifting weights at the gym? Going on a trip around the world? Trying BDSM?