Comment by StanislavPetrov
5 days ago
I think something a lot of people don't understand is that nobody is entitled to respect. Respect is something that is earned. If someone behaves in ways that you disagree with, you are not obligated to respect that behavior, or the person engaging in that behavior. I think one of the greatest disservices we have done to our young people, for a couple of generations now, is to teach them that everyone is entitled to respect no matter what they do. Just as it is your right to behave however you want in society (within legal limits), it is everyone else's right to judge you for that behavior. The younger generations act as if "judgement" is a dirty word, and that people are committing some sort of grave transgression if they judge you.
Are you suggesting that you think that disrespect is a better default behavior towards others than respect? For example, would you prefer that people respond to your comments disrespectfully until they have seen enough of them to believe you “deserve their respect?”
Edit: if you are saying that it is reasonable that some actions can induce a loss of respect, I agree. Though I firmly believe respect is the default behavior and also that there is a base level of respect that should be accorded to even our worst enemies.
>Are you suggesting that you think that disrespect is a better default behavior towards others than respect?
Not at all, disrespect is something that is earned as well. Personally I behave with courtesy towards all people until they give me a reason to do otherwise. There is a big difference between courtesy and respect. I will say "thank you", hold the door open when someone is coming in behind me, and otherwise treat anyone I don't know with decency and courtesy.
>there is a base level of respect that should be accorded to even our worst enemies.
We'll have to agree to disagree here! When someone has proven themselves to be worthless and not entitled to respect, I feel no obligation to them whatsoever.