Comment by dijit

I like your anecdote about the boy scouts being a healthy environment- that could well be true and I have no reason to think otherwise.

But I think being blind to the other kids being bullied is probably a common thing, you’re likely better adjusted as an adult and can’t possibly comprehend how common or how helpless kids can be to being bullied.

You can imagine then, a person like you becoming a teacher might not be looking for signs that kids are being bullied, because its rarer than death after all- and all you’d see is the built-up backlash of the bullied kid finally hitting the bully back (because, being a bullied kid fighting back for once is dramatic).

This is a large part of why the the bullied kids end up being punished when finally acting out in zero-tolerance scenarios.

Bullying is definitely more common than death.