Comment by ThatGuyRaion
10 months ago
It's not okay but he's giving them ammunition by mentioning them and complaining about them. It proves that it's working.
When I started getting harassed in 2022 over an ill advised post on a site, the only thing that stopped it was to sandbag everything and rethink how I interacted on the internet.
Didn't your change in behavior also prove that your harassment "worked"?
Not at all. I haven't changed my principles. I simply learned how to say things better.
That's victim blaming, even when it's in reference to yourself.
Sometimes the victim can take the action to stop the abuse even when they’re not at fault
I'm not blaming the victims for anything. But I am absolutely saying that you need to modify your behavior in order to get what you want oftentimes. Suggesting that people make even the smallest changes to their lives in 2025 is apparently victim blaming.
I should have been clearer, I'm specifically replying to this statement: "... he's giving them ammunition by mentioning them and complaining about them. It proves that it's working."
Are we supposed to not speak publicly about being harassed? I feel like a culture of silence only allows bullying to perpetuate, and puts the onus on the victim to change their behaviour, and not the harasser's.
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