Comment by genewitch

My neighbor and I are good friends, but he's a southerner and when he talks to coon-ass southerners he drops n-bombs and the like. Not meanly, in the same tone as "he drove a nissan".

I got to see something amazing a few years ago. My youngest and I were over there and some coon-ass he knew drove up and asked him about a part they were waiting to get delivered. The bomb was dropped, and immediately after the other person left he apologized to me "I forgot your kid was here, sorry" ; and I knew from his face it actually took 30 seconds to process what he had just said in front of a 5 year old.

Our conversations never enter racism territory even when the subject would be ripe for it if you couldnt help yourself at all.

Hope this made sense.

edit: in context it was like "the part showed up yet?" "nope, the nbomb fedex driver is late" "oh, alright. I'll call you in an hour when i get back from town." "k, seeya" he's 20 years my elder, but i also frequent mastodon where it is most CERTAINLY not used in this way.