Comment by tristor
1 month ago
I agree with every single thing you just wrote, and yet it doesn't address the fact that the world is an unfair place and that being too honest is a character fault, maybe a different take on the meaning of "discretion" in "Discretion is the better part of valor" best expresses what I had originally meant by "overabundance of honesty".
I'm an extremely honest person, and it has paid dividends personally and professionally. It's also cost me a /lot/. But I am not "honest to a fault", which is a saying for a reason. I know when it's better to shut my mouth than to speak out, and sometimes I speak out even though I know I will suffer for it because it's the right thing to do, but it's not /always/ the right thing to do.
Whether to speak or not is often different than whether to be honest or not. I don't tell people that I find their hairdo to be awful.
In the case of the OP, arguably it's assumed that if it would impact your employer, you will tell them. Not telling them is therefore dishonest - it's strongly implying there is no problem. (For the OP, it depends heavily on the employer and their relationship.)
> It's also cost me a /lot/.
Is there an option that doesn't cost you a lot?