Comment by zjp
20 days ago
It's a mistake to think I advocate for encouraging corporal punishment as a first-line treatment for misbehavior. It's like a nuclear weapon: it should always be an option, but almost never the one exercised. I pointed out the single time in my life it was used, which I think was justified.
Even keeping corporal punishment on the table without engaging in it can encourage the mentality of needing to "strike down" children who defy orders. If not physically, then metaphorically.
Source: personal experience. I was only physically punished a single time, but the continued emotional abuse sustained over a decade (which they learned from a guy who preached a "spare the rod"-type mentality) left me with scars that are unlikely to ever fully heal.
And in my case, I was lucky enough to remain capable of being a good student. That kind of baggage, and the expectations on top, only makes the effort to succeed in school/work an order of magnitude harder to sustain for years and years. I can only imagine how many people in my situation weren't able to accomplish what I was able to.
If for example I hadn't finished college instead, I wouldn't be surprised if certain people just blanket labeled me "lazy" like so many others, without taking into account my upbringing.
> which I think was justified.
With all respect to your parents, given you were 3, I don't think it was justified. You said yourself you were imitating Looney Tunes. Who lets a 3 year old watch Looney Tunes?