Comment by fatbird
8 days ago
The author has a huge blindspot: discussing politics with others where it's not a co-operative search for truth; instead it's an opportunity to let your friends explain themselves. Don't challenge them, ask them questions. Let them talk it out. Offer your own observations not as ways to change their minds but as an invitation to elaborate and explore.
You don't need to share your opinions in every conversation. You don't need to challenge another's beliefs that you disagree with or think are factually wrong. You can bond over listening to them. And they can invite you to share your thinking non-judgementally.
Yeah I sympathize with the author, but it’s not hard to talk about these things with a little bit of tact. Intellectual humility also helps. I’ve come to realize I and most others know approximately 0 about most political issues, so it’s an opportunity to not truth seek but to get to know the other persons and their values better.
This is actually how most of my conversations operate, I rarely share my beliefs in conversation, but ask questions -- often geared towards a tribal view I've detected