Comment by eszed

Ha! This is so much the difference between American and Chinese culture.

By way of illustration, in my earlier career as an actor one of my favorite ever directors to work with was a woman from a Chinese culture (a very, very successful artist, indeed a celebrity, in her home country) whose style was incredibly blunt, and always helpful. She'd interrupt you in full flow with: "No, no. That shit. Try like _____". Or my favorite instance (and just to set the scene: at the time I weighed 165 lbs, could run all day, and stand under a doorframe and lift a foot up to touch the lintel without bending my knee - I was fucking fit, is my point) we were reviewing costumes, and she says "[eszed] not that shirt! Make you look fat." Which, well, yeah: I'm the guy who no matter my body-fat keeps a little roll around my middle - visible abs were never in my genetic cards. I thanked her, and wore something looser.

As you say, American positivity bias won't allow that sort of feedback. I find it bracing.