Comment by notepad0x90

they don't have to feel the way I do, that's you misunderstanding what you're saying. They have to fee *bad* about what happened. I want them to associate negligence with "i screwed up and this could have been really bad", and then move on knowing they learned their lesson. I could have been then, I could have made that mistake. people forget words, but they don't forget emotions easily, that's why it's important for them to feel somber, to feel like you screwed up (but not like you're a screw-up), to feel like "I messed up and I never want to be in this situation again".

I've made really bad mistakes myself, I still fill horrible about it. When work that involves similar context comes up, I am extra careful and implement all sorts of checks and balances to avoid similar issues from arising. I only wish that for others.

If they repeat that sort of a mistake, they'll probably get fired, that's what's at stake. If nothing else matters, I would hope that at least matters to them. They should feel bad in the same way a person who mishandled a nuclear bomb's detonation mechanism should feel bad, that can't happen, it just can't. simply recognizing the problem, saying you won't do it again isn't enough, you need to feel and permanently have the gravity of the situation ingrained into your thought process.