Comment by gardenhedge
1 year ago
I hadn't heard of "Vaguebooking" either but intuitively recognised it immediately. That nails this thread really.
Your reply also has a subtweet style to it - but I sure there's a better word to describe it!
Anyway, look at us now not talking about the subject... Because it was only vaguely referenced in the first place.
Exactly.
To be fair, though, some of the most interesting stuff on HN, comes from “diverted” comment threads (not this one, though).
Of course, I’ve always made it easy to get in touch with me. I would assume that if someone was legitimately interested in the backstory (as opposed to some prurient interest in public grandstanding), they could contact me directly. It has happened, in the past.
That is quite fair to have a division on what you post out in the open and in private messages. At least there, I see an expression of sharing in good faith, without needing to spill all the beans.
I haven't seen that type of grandstanding on HN - could be a tiktok thing though.
HNers are normally open to discussing what they themselves post about. I think we can agree to leave the vaguebooking to the sulky teens on FB.
When someone insists that you expose in public, and refuses to engage in any other manner, then that’s an issue. I see a fair amount of pretty classic “schoolyard bully” behavior on HN, which is interesting, as this is a professional forum, frequented by some of the most influential people in the industry.
Bullies like an audience. They want people to see their behavior.
I know of a number of folks on HN, that are convicted felons, often running companies that help other convicted felons, interested in going legit (This does not include the much greater number of “uncaught” felons. I bet that every blackhat has an HN handle, and I'll also bet that they are some of the best-behaved HN members).
Occasionally, one of these folks may choose to post some portion of their personal journey. I am grateful to read what they post, and would never dream of demanding that they post more. If I find what they post compelling, I might contact them directly.
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