Comment by two_handfuls

Yes, exactly this has been proposed with "smart car chargers," along with other things you can do if the grid operator has some control over a bunch of grid-connected equipment. It hasn't taken off as far as I know, probably because that means the car battery wears out more.

The "virtual power plants" are the closest thing to this idea that is actually done in practice. That's individuals who own batteries joining some collective that then sells to the grid the ability to reduce demand a bit. Tesla did a pilot program with its Powerwalls iirc.