Comment by IAmBroom
3 days ago
Agreed. I know a hoarder (self-described, accurately) who traces it all back to her mom secretly throwing away her toys. She became highly defensive of her "things", to a ridiculous (three houses filled) extent.
My mother, OTOH, while not the greatest in the world, would ask me to choose which toys were being donated to "other children who don't have any" (Goodwill, probably). I keep things longer than I should, but can throw away the unused from time to time, keeping my house sort of tidy-esque, kinda.
If you're going to do it, you really have to pay attention to your kid(s).
When I was in my early teens, I walked in on my mom going through my brother's toys with a bag in hand to get rid of them. Once I figured out what she was doing, I asked the obvious question, if she'd ever done it to me, and she just nonchalantly asked me if I had ever missed any toys.
I never had. She actually knew which ones mattered and which ones didn't. These days I miss the magic fairy that comes in and gets rid of the things I don't use anymore when I'm not looking!
Yup, too many parents just buy mindlessly for their kids without thinking of the exit plan for all this stuff, preferring to just throw it away when their kid doesn’t notice. This gets rid of the garbage but then your kid is left with the impression they can just consume endlessly and there’s always room for something else, they never go through the process of getting rid of things.
As a parent, I try to be very judicious about what I buy them for their entertainment. But we have a large family and everyone wants to bring a little something. When the kids were younger I get away with asking family and friends to just gift clothes if they must gift something or just bring a card or better yet a book they loved and signed instead of a card. But as kids got bigger they started expressing desires themselves so family and friends now buy toys along with more practical stuff. They try to be educational but the number of unopened rock painting kits you can fit into your storage is only so many.